Jealousy is probably the most common reason people abandon ENM before they've really tried it. It's also one of the most misunderstood emotions in the human toolkit.
This workshop is about what jealousy actually is, what it's trying to tell you, and what to do with it — beyond "just feel it" or "push through."
We'll look at the anatomy of a jealous moment: the trigger, the story your mind builds around it, the feeling underneath, and the need that's actually asking to be met. This is slow, honest work, and it changes things.
We'll also spend time with compersion — the experience of feeling good about a partner's joy with someone else — not as a goal you should be reaching, but as something worth understanding.
— What we'll cover —
• The anatomy of jealousy: trigger → story → emotion → need
• Why jealousy spikes in ENM and what it's often masking
• Tools for moving through a jealous moment without acting from it
• Compersion: what it is, what it isn't, and whether you need to feel it
• Collective reflection: what jealousy has taught people in this room
— Who this is for —
Everyone. You don't have to be in an ENM relationship to carry jealousy. This session is useful in any relationship context. No prior attendance in this series required.
— Format —
More reflective than the previous workshops. Includes individual writing time, small group sharing, and an open circle. Come with honesty; leave with more room to breathe.
— Facilitator —
Cloudy is a warm, grounded presence in our community. Having lived in ENM relationships for over a decade, he brings depth, lived experience, and empathetic guidance into his workshops. Over the years he has supported many community members with openness, trust, and gentle curiosity. His way of holding space helps participants feel seen, supported, and understood.
📍 Practical info
Time: 17:30 - 21:00
Place: The Funky House - Vålerenga
Price: 350,- ( Can't afford this price, then slide into Cloudy´s DM)